Safety
What you can do, and what we can do.
No dating service can promise that every encounter goes well, and we are not going to. What we can do is give you controls that work immediately, and read every report a person sends us.
If something is happening now
What to do
- 1
Block them
Immediate and private. The conversation ends, they leave your deck, and neither of you can reach the other again.
- 2
Report them
From a profile, a conversation, a date, or your blocked list. They are never told who reported them.
- 3
Leave the date
Leave the Date Room and the world closes. No explanation owed to anybody, us included.
- 4
If somebody is in danger, call your emergency number first
Then tell us. We will preserve what we hold and cooperate with the police.
Adults only
DateSMP is strictly for people aged 18 and over.
What that means in practice, without the reassuring vagueness.
Every account confirms a date of birth
Before it can do anything at all, and separately ticks a box saying it is true. An account that has not done both is shown a gate rather than the product.
Telling us you are under 18 ends there
It is not a form you can correct and resubmit. The account is put on hold the moment the date is entered, and only a person can lift that, so if you made a genuine mistake, write to us.
On a phone, we also ask the App Store or Google Play
Where your device can tell us whether the account it is signed into belongs to an adult, we ask, and a “no” puts the account on hold. We never receive your date of birth from them, and it never replaces the date you gave us.
We do not use third-party age or identity verification
No document check, no face scan, no identity provider, so we do not say our members are “age verified”, because that would not be true. DateSMP is strictly 18+ and uses the age-assurance measures above. Said plainly so you can weigh it yourself.
A report about somebody under 18 is treated as urgent
The account is locked while a person reviews it, rather than joining a queue.
Confirmed accounts are closed
And where the law requires it, reported to the authorities.
Minecraft is played by children. DateSMP is not Minecraft
The dating side is a separate account behind an age gate. Linking a Minecraft character does not create one.
What a date reveals about you
Less than a video call, more than a chat.
Worth knowing before rather than after.
Your town, not your address
You choose a town. Distance is measured from it and rounded to the nearest kilometre, and you can hide both without losing the distance filter.
Your Minecraft username
If you link one, the person you are on a date with sees it, as they would on any server. That is a public name and it can be searched.
Your voice, only if you turn it on
Voice is optional and never recorded. It connects the two devices directly where the networks allow it, which means each learns the other's network address; where they do not, it is relayed by a server that carries the audio without being able to hear it.
Never your email
It is how you sign in, and nobody else ever sees it.
When you were last online
Unless you switch it off in Privacy.
Nothing you did not put there
No profile views, no like counts, no read receipts unless you opt in. There is no setting for those because they do not exist.
Off the server
If you take it somewhere else
A Minecraft date keeps real distance between you. The moment you agree to meet somewhere else, that changes.
- Meet somewhere public, the first few times
- Tell somebody where you are going and when you expect to be back
- Arrange your own way there and your own way home
- Video call before you travel, if you can
- Nobody who is genuine will push you to move faster
- Never send money, however good the reason sounds
A person reads every report
Moderation is done by people, not by a model. We may do nothing, warn, restrict, lock an account while we look, or close it. We tell you when we are done, though not always what we decided, telling one member the outcome for another is a privacy problem and a route to retaliation.
And if we get it wrong
Decisions about your account are explained, and you can write back and have a person look again. We would rather reverse a bad call than defend it. The rules are in the community guidelines.